Here we will go over five tips on being a good mother.
When we become mothers, our natural instincts compel us to be the best mother possible. The issue is that our instincts do not come with an instruction manual, so we are basically winging it for 18 years.
Every parent and child is different, so there can not be a one size fits all parenting rule book. However, we list five tips any mom can benefit from below, so keep reading for some helpful info.
1) Have Patience
There will be days when your children are pushing all of your buttons, and you can’t help but wonder if they are testing you. Well, kids do test our patience, but they aren’t doing it to upset us; they are trying to learn boundaries and have fun
We won’t always be able to maintain our composure and remain patient in these situations, but it’s essential to try our best. When we are patient with our children, we are teaching them how to control negative emotions and how to be patient themselves. Additionally, patience is an incredible skill to master as a parent because it decreases the risk of us saying or doing something regretful out of anger.
2) Don’t Make Comparisons
No two children are the same, and neither are two parents. However, we have all had those moments when we wished that we could be more like another parent or that our children behaved like someone else.
These comparisons are not only unhealthy for our own reality but unhealthy for our children as well. Don’t hold yourself to an unrealistic standard that says everyone can be perfect all of the time.
The truth is that when you are fawning over someone else’s life, you are seeing them at their absolute best and comparing them to your absolute worst.
3) Pay Attention to Their Physical, Emotional, and Nutritional Needs
To be a good mother, you must pay attention to their many needs and ensure those needs are met.
To meet your child’s physical needs, ensure they get plenty of exercises, rest, and medical care when they feel ill. Your child won’t always want to go outside to get exercise, but without it, they can’t run off extra energy, and after a while, weight issues may appear. On the other hand, making sure your child gets enough rest is equally important. Your child does the majority of their healing and growing while asleep.
Paying attention to your child’s nutritional needs starts as soon as they are born. If you breastfeed, make sure you don’t consume things that could harm the baby, like alcohol or marijuana. Once they are older and eating solids, ensure they eat a balanced diet daily that contains the correct amount of each food group for their age.
To meet your child’s emotional needs, be present as much as possible, listen to them, and play with them. Receiving love and attention is an essential part of who your child will grow up to be. A child whose emotional needs are met is more likely to grow into an adult that feels secure and happy.
Neglecting any one of these can result in mental or physical health concerns.
4) Choose Your Words Wisely
“What is wrong with you!?”
“What were you thinking!?”
“That person looks ridiculous!”
“I am so stupid sometimes.”
These are a few examples of phrases we may say out of frustration that can negatively impact our children’s self-esteem and respect toward others.
Of course, we don’t mean to be hurtful or judgemental when making these comments, but your child doesn’t know that.
As the little minds of our children develop, we use our body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, and words to help mold their personalities and self-esteem.
When saying harsh things like “what is wrong with you?” our kids perceive that something is wrong with them.
When we say something negative about ourselves or others, we teach them that it’s OK to be judgemental, hurtful, and feel bad about ourselves.
It’s important to choose our words wisely because our children look up to us and treat our words as set-in-stone facts because they trust us more than anyone else.
5) Take Care of Yourself
Once you become a mother, you dedicate your life to ensuring that your children are happy and healthy.
Giving your child a happy and healthy life includes things like cooking healthy meals, keeping the home clean, working, entertaining them, scheduling doctor appointments, taking them to school or activities, and so much more.
Depending on the help you receive and the role you play in the household, you may or may not be doing all of this alone. Regardless, the stress alone that comes with making sure your child is thriving can be overwhelming.
Many mothers spend their days feeling drained and knowing they need some time to themselves; however, they feel guilty when they practice self-care. This guilt Is common among mothers, but it’s essential to ignore those negative emotions and take care of yourself anyway.
When we dedicate our entire lives to someone else and don’t spend time on ourselves, we begin to feel resentment, depression, and neglect. By simply setting some time aside each day to take a bubble bath, read a book or watch television we can limit stress and exhaustion. To be a good mother, you must be able to take care of your children without any resentment or negative emotions attached.